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Whichever faith you recognize and practice, I want to wish you and yours a wonderful Easter and Passover celebration.
He died for us to atone for our sins, and rose again in proof that He is to be worshiped as our Lord and Savior.
Yesterday if filled with the memories and experience that continue to shape you. Today is the day that allows you to truly make a difference in everything that you do. Tomorrow is the day that is never promised to you.
Take the time to understand yesterday, but leave it behind. Only worry about tomorrow when it becomes today. Live for today, because that is where you’ll truly make a difference in all of the lives you touch.
I have gotten the chance to travel quite extensively throughout my lifetime, and as a result of that travel I’ve visited some really cool places. College sports took me to many states across the United States, the military added some out of country trips, and my career keeps adding to the vast lists of places I have been fortunate enough to visit.
My most recent business trip took me back to Las Vegas. All I can say is, “What a town!” During my first trip my workload kept me from really seeing it, because everything was conveniently encased in the hotel. So there was no real reason to leave unless it was much later in the evening. However, on this trip…there was a lot of down time in between the times I was required to actually work.
The hotel room was awesome to say the least, and other work related responsibilities kept me busy until the evening. But the nights were free. I decided to venture out to see what really made this town so attractive to so many people to live or vacation. My numerous conversations with cab and Uber drivers gave me some insight on why they moved to such an affordable town, or what type of living they were escaping from when they decided to move to sin-city. They also said that the Vegas suburbs are much like those around the United states, but the strip is where all of the action is.
I of course had to take a trip to Fremont Street to check out the old strip. What did I see other than vacationers, gambling upon more gambling. It was everywhere, the stores, hotels, and restaurants just to name a few places. And the casinos were smart enough to keep serving free alcohol to those willing to risk their life savings on a bet! I was a bit surprised at seeing all the Cannabis Superstore signs up on the taxi cabs but even more surprised at the smell of marijuana as I walked up and down the streets. Such a sad society.
The residents of the strip were either a sideshow attempting to extort money from the crowds, or the scantly clad ladies with thongs running up their butts were interesting too. The number of female escorts working the night was a fascinating sight was well. But the thing I found most interesting was the street performer with the sign kick me in the balls for money. What a talent! And I of wondered two things, and to things alone 1) Why did it not hurt? 2) At what point did you wake up and decide on that as a career decision?
I would guess as God looks down on Vegas, He must wonder how this town could have become what is has become. I’m guessing that He also wonders how could I have made man the highest being that walks the face of the earth if this is what they’ve turned into. If there ever was a city that needs to start over…I would say it needs to be that one.
For those of you looking to make Vegas a vacation spot, I would strongly suggest you take it to the outskirts of the strip. And yes everyone should see it so you can appreciate what you have that much more. I’m happy that sin-city is but a small cross-section of our society, and that it does not represent the America I’m so proud of. But it’s Sodom and Gomorrah look and feel truly tells you how low people will sink for money.
Two recent mega Church Pastors have been released for inappropriate behavior, sexual abuse, outspending their needs, and the misappropriation of funds. What is most surprising is that they were left un-audited and simply trusted because they were in the top role as men of God. I won’t go into any lengthy description of the history among priests in a religion that will not be named here…but WOW!
Why would we not realize that power in itself is an aphrodisiac that can often skew one’s point of view. Just imagine how many people in a Church come there to practice and or are looking for faith. And even though there are others there that help, the person in front of the pulpit is often viewed as the highest authority. I would imagine that level of trust will eventually turns someone’s thinking…after all they’re only human.
During these last two episodes these Church leaders had been in their roles for more than 30 years. And even though I’m sure they started out on the right path, they somehow got off on an off-ramp that was filled with deception, harassment, affairs, and who could guess what else. But my curiosity lies in what system of auditing was in place to ensure that something like this would not happen. Doesn’t the Church have some sort of executive board that oversees the flow of donations, their lifestyles, their interactions with the congregation, and if so – how could something like this be missed? I’d would also like to know like an annual physical, are they taken through some type of physiological testing annually, and are they audited?
I am the first to believe that a CEO of any organization should be well compensated, but when I think about a church leader, I cannot see them living in a 1.2 million dollar home. Nor do I see them having private holdings that are worth much more. Now if they come to the pulpit with money that’s another thing all together. But when that money has been taken from the very people in the congregation that are donating their hard earned money to support the cause…I find it appalling!
I’m not sure how many more of these situations I we will see in my lifetime, but I want to make sure we all know that, men of God or just men. Just because they answered the calling to be in front of the pulpit, it does not make them superheros, or keep them from succumbing to temptation. If any thing their temptation is greater simply because so many come to them with some sort of need. Therefore, without a system of checks an balances in place that go beyond trust, I am not surprised that these men have fallen from grace.
Not being a Facebook person myself, I cannot argue with the thinking behind it. What a cool application to build a private network to share information with those closet to you. See how they’ve grown-up, where they went to college, and other things including sharing your current relationship status. Now I can’t argue with any of that.
In addition to it’s original purpose, what it has turned into is where the vain live. I truly could give two shits about how many likes you have, or if you want to share your work-out schedule. And I’m not sure why you think we’re interested in your tough Tuesday, or your work-out Wednesday. You then take it a step further and show us your before and after photos…just how vain are you? Here’s and idea, why don’t we use it for what it was meant for. I believe it was about our ever changing societies moving from land lines, to cellular, to the internet, to applications that connected us in a similar fashion.
Instead what we’ve got are personal posting of crap you would not dare to share with others on the telephone. By the way, no one really cares who you workout with, the workout you’re doing, where you ate lunch or where you vacationed to- especially when those who know you deepest know you are inwardly miserable, or can’t afford your vacation. Keep your network private and show it to those who care…and I am not one of them!
The purpose of this particular blog is to explain living like a real man! The key to success of life in this area only requires a few things:
Keep it simple
Live within your means
Give hard and love hard for those you care about
Be the example of a good husband, father, friend, and expect the same of others
Know that you have only one life to give, therefore only one life to live
Patience is a virtue only if someone does not piss you off
Look in the mirror before you point the finger at someone else…because you may be looking at yourself
Are you a Real Mann?
I’d like to meet the person who came up with the concept of the mini-van, and heralded it as this awesome travel vehicle. When it truly resembles riding in a covered wagon like way back in the day. Oh did I forget to mention that if you’re a real man…the moment you sit in it, you feel as if your balls are being dragged behind you on the rear bumper.
We had a long trip ahead of us, so we were duped by the stories of the extra riding and storage space, the dual this and dual that, and the CD and DVD players. The captain chairs and gas mileage. They showed us multiple colors…some hideous, some neutral, but who can go wrong with silver.
We set out on our journey in our ball crunching chariot, and yes with my testicles dangling from the back! And let me tell you how cool you look when you are passing another vehicle…not!
No needless to say I will never adorn the inside or a minivan for the rest of my natural life. And hopefully they will not start using them as a hearse in the future, because my dead body will get up and walk out. How cool that I can actually star on the Walking Dead.
It’s no secret that our relationships change over time. It’s also no secret that we allow the events of life to reshape who we are, and how we feel about the important relationships in our lives. What if I told you, “The Old Can Be The New.”
Back in the day which actually dates back over 19 years, my wife and I were newly married. And what a time is was! We were purely focused on putting each other first, and focused on doing things the other loved…this helped each other feel more loved by each other person. The coolest part was that they were little things like being considerate, cross-referencing time for events, leaving little notes, preparing dinner together, or just taking long walks.
I still remember how excited I was to hear her voice during some part of the day, or sneaking away to share lunch together. Well you asked why I would be writing about this particular topic. It’s because life a took turn on us called house, kids, jobs, and all of the responsibilities that come with it. And as a result of that – we went from first to last.
After many years of this we began to look at each other differently, and in some cases the trust was questioned on both sides. We were just so focused on the things we were doing for others, that we forgot to do things for each other. And of course that’s when the finger pointing of why don’t you do this anymore started? We each of course came up with our lame excuses, and were looking at each other rather than ourselves. And after this had gone on for a while, that’s when it hit me.
Why can’t the old be the new? We actually started talking about what we loved most about our marriage during our early years together. And the common theme was that we were focused on doing what we knew the other person loved. That decision helped the other feel loved and first to the other person. After all we are preparing our children to get the heck out of the house at some point, and those years we spend solely focused on them makes us strangers after they’re gone.
The exercise itself was simple. Take a look at those pictures where you’re wrapped around each other, and your smiles are from ear-to-ear. And then don’t just think about what you were doing at the time, but think about how happy you were to have someone you cared about so much sharing your personal space. That same environment can be recreated again, and it is as simple as making the decision to do so. Now of course this only works if you’re not close to killing each other, or your relationship is so far gone that the vary sight of your presence sickens the other person and makes them want to puke.
The true moral to the story is that happiness lays in those smiles from the past that can easily drive your future together. Life happens regardless of you or me, but we don’t have to allow our destiny’s to just happen…we can actually stir the wheel to that happiness. So let your old be your new, and bring back the things that put the smiles on your faces in those pictures of of the past.
One of the many things I like about my circle of five is the trust we’ve built for each other over the years. As a result of that trust we can have real conversations about life, love, happiness, leadership, disappointment, and just people and events overall. It’s also nice to clarify one’s thinking with someone who may share a similar point of view, or one that is vastly different from yours.
One of the best thing I get from them is the strong sense of accountability we share for each other. Who better to share with you that your on the right path on something…or that you’re just completely full of shit in your thinking. Since most people choose to only build their circle of five with others like themselves, they never get to truly enjoy the value of a different perspective. Instead they get to revel in the fact of getting their thinking backed by someone who only shares the same viewpoint.
Again, I’m happy to say that my circle of five only share foundations for the love of our families, a passion for succeeding and leadership, how we treat our bodies, and how we communicate. On the other hand we do not share religious views nor the same faith, we are all from different upbringing and cultures, and none of us do anything similar to the others. And other than knowing of each other other only a few of them have ever met. So you can believe me when I say…they do hold me accountable!
I have loved that my circle of five has for the most part stayed in tact after all of these years. But I am smart enough to know that I’ll loose one or two of them along the way at some point. Whether it is due to death or the relationship has simply run it’s course – it will happen. Not that I’m interviewing or on-the-lookout for replacements, one has to beware that an opening will exist on day for me or them. Here’s the $1 million dollar question, do you have a circle of five you can count on, and how well do you take care of them?
My conversations with each of them is anything from soup to nuts unless there is a specific problem or situation that needs to be addressed. What I like most about the conversations is the sheer honesty during them. We hold nothing back, nor do we feel there is need to soften a blow when it needs to be taken. Those kind of friendships are worth their weight in gold, and worth every penny of the investment.
With the American family slowly disintegrating more and more through the increasing use of technology, I have to admit I thought I had seen it all. One of the things I truly enjoyed growing up and still share with my family today, is sharing dinners together. It is not only a time to enjoy the sharing of good home cooked meal, it’s also a time for getting caught up and sharing our experiences of the day.
We now shop online instead of going to a department store. We buy groceries and have them delivered. We indulge in crazy diets instead of exercising. We play video games virtually instead of traveling to an arcade. I think you get my point! We have become a world of replacing activity with a few simple key strokes to do what needs to get done.
Like many people I too am one to enjoy the convenience of a fast food meal when time is of the essence. However, I am more than willing to conduct my business through the drive-thru, or sit down and enjoy sharing that meal with one or all of my family. We as a family wanted to make sure if were going to eat the food we would still share a sense of family while doing so. That a least makes the decision to do so work for us.
But then I saw the commercial where you can actually have the fast food delivered to your home. All I could think about was the more inactivity it causes for those who take advantage of it! At least a college student would have to go through the actions of walking to the restaurant or to their car to get there. A family would have to at least formulate a plan to get the family together to make the trek to the restaurant. The boy and girlfriend would at least have to get out of their dorm room or apartment to walk or travel there.
Now all one has to do is pick up their mobile device to order delivery on it, and take all the physical activity out of the process. What are we becoming…noting more than the laziest generation in all societies. The fast food industry is a multi-trillion dollar industry, and of course the more you serve the more you make. Even though sit down restaurants still do well, the invention of the drive-thru revolutionized the industry, because you could service people on the go. With home delivery – now people don’t even have to go.
Even though I’ll never and I mean never have fast food delivered to my home, for the simple fact I enjoy sharing meal time with my family. I could not see that replacing the joy I get out of preparing meals in our home. I am now waiting for the commercial where they actually come to your home and wipe your butt after taking a poop. Maybe the person that delivers the fast food to my home could spare a few extra minutes for a better tip to perform that duty for me!